One relationship in Netflix’s The Scandal is causing an unexpected debate among viewers.
It is not Cho Won and Hui-yeon.
It is Cho Won and Lady Cho.
After watching the flashbacks showing their younger years, some viewers began asking a provocative question:
Was Cho Won groomed by Lady Cho?
The answer is not as simple as it might first appear.
Why Are Viewers Asking This?
Cho Won may be known as Joseon’s notorious playboy, but his relationship with Lady Cho reveals a very different side of him.
Episode 4 makes it clear that Cho Won had long hidden his feelings for Lady Cho, trying to fill the emotional void through relationships with other women.
The flashbacks make that attachment feel even deeper.
One Reddit viewer described young Cho Won as someone who seemed to keep clinging to the small pieces of affection Lady Cho gave him.
That led to the suggestion that Lady Cho may have groomed him emotionally.
But other viewers see the relationship differently.
Lady Cho Doesn’t Simply Control Cho Won
Calling their relationship “grooming” creates a problem.
Cho Won is not simply a passive victim throughout the story.
As an adult, he challenges Lady Cho, provokes her and willingly participates in their dangerous wager.
He understands her cruelty better than almost anyone — yet repeatedly returns to her.
Lady Cho also lives inside a system that severely limits her own choices.
Netflix describes her as a brilliant noblewoman trapped by the restrictions imposed on women in Joseon society.
That does not excuse her manipulation.
But it makes their relationship more complicated than a straightforward predator-and-victim dynamic.
The Hat Scene Changes How Their Relationship Looks
One Reddit viewer noticed a small but revealing detail in the final episode.
Lady Cho ties Cho Won’s hat beneath his chin and pulls it so tightly that he has to adjust it.
Later, Cho Won ties Hui-yeon’s hat.
But this time, the gesture is gentle.
The viewer interpreted the contrast as symbolic:
Lady Cho wants to keep Cho Won trapped. Cho Won wants to protect Hui-yeon.
Whether that symbolism was intentional or not, it perfectly captures the difference between the two relationships.
With Lady Cho, love and control are almost impossible to separate.
With Hui-yeon, Cho Won finally experiences affection without the same psychological game.
Maybe “Grooming” Isn’t the Most Important Question
The drama never labels what happened between Lady Cho and Cho Won as grooming.
And there is not enough information to make that diagnosis with certainty.
But the debate reveals something important about their relationship.
Cho Won spends much of his adult life acting sexually free while remaining emotionally attached to one woman he can never truly have.
Lady Cho, meanwhile, keeps him close enough to maintain that attachment but never gives him the relationship he wants.
They hurt each other, challenge each other and repeatedly return to the same emotional trap.
That may explain why viewers cannot agree on who has power over whom.
Perhaps that is the real tragedy of The Scandal.
Cho Won can seduce almost anyone in Joseon.
But for most of his life, he cannot free himself from Lady Cho.